There has been a question on my mind ever since I started reading manosphere blogs, how do I tell if a girl is a good girl? This is not an easy question. It is well-known what qualifies a girl for slut or whore status, but what distinct qualities makes a girl a good woman for a Christian man?
First off would obviously be innocence, the Bible repeats many times
that sex is to be reserved for marriage. There’s a deeper part of this
though, how do you know if she’s being truthful about being a virgin?
That picks up on another GGT (Good Girl Trait, I’m lazy), truthfulness.
This trait is something that needs to be systematically tested, you
have to ask her things that you know the answer to, which may require
some digging to find out. Truthfulness relies on another trait, the
decision to not deflect responsibility. This is important because it
decides her ability to rationalize. Choosing not to shift blame, she is
much less likely to be a complete psycho.
Rationalization is probably the most talked about subject in the
manosphere. It is given life with the term ‘rationalization hamster’,
and is generally thought to be a source of constant strife between men
and women. Without rationalization women would be forced to use logic in
their day-to-day lives, making them less mysterious to the average male
and much easier to deal with. BUT, they would then be like men, men
were given logic by God for a reason and the same goes for
rationalization for women. Rationalization is alright in moderation, it
allows women to see themselves in a different situation and when backed
up a healthy dose of male logic it can to something good previously
unseen. I like to use Athol’s example here, the captain and first
officer is the best situation for this rationalization/logic tag-team,
the woman can bring up a fresh idea and if it seems viable the man can
implement it, if it doesn’t then its the man’s duty to shoot it down.
The next GGT is a sense of shame, its important for a girl to be
ashamed of certain things, it keeps her from being a slut for one. Shame
also keeps a woman from talking bad about people and especially her man
behind their backs, it also helps to keep her tied to her man, a good
girl would be very ashamed of doing anything that would cause her man to
be righteously angry with her.
This GGT is more for men currently seeking a wife, naiveté. One could
argue that a naive girl is more likely to get herself in trouble, but
that’s a more general form than what I’m writing about. I’m thinking
more of a naiveté towards the physical, the worldly, and feminism in
general. It may be more accurate to call it a lack of brainwashing.
Either way its important that a girl doesn’t have an opinion solidly set
that a man is going to have a very hard time changing. (A girl
brainwashed from feminism will lean towards ‘making a home, raising our
children and being surrounded by a loving family won’t be fulfilling.
It’s practically slavery! I should get a soul crushing job for a decade
or so first.’-Jack Dublin)
The fourth GGT is modesty, this word gets thrown around a lot at
places like church and schools, but its true meaning is hedged out. It’s
not just how she dresses or speaks, or if she acts decently, its more
that modesty needs to be part of her being, something that decides what
she does. She needs to think modestly, not put herself above others, not
be competitive or condescending.(Although we do want a good girl to compete for us just a bit.-Jack Dublin)
Last of all, a good girl needs to be kind. Have you ever been around a
girl that’s genuinely kind? It’s a marvel to behold, something to be
treasured. A kind girl won’t get pissed over little things, she won’t
try to scheme or back stab, she’ll do her best to make sure people are
in good spirits and comfortable. This is perhaps my most sought after
trait, I have yet to find a girl who cares how others feel without
putting herself and her wants first.
I missed many GGT’s, but I wanted to hear from any readers we may have and see what everyone seeks in a good girl.
(I’d throw in a vote for true femininity. Feminists are a blight
on the earth. A truly feminine woman is like balm for a man. Along with
that, decent cooking skills. I’ll expand on it a bit in my own post.